This time of year reminds me of the New Year’s Resolution “trade” we did one year when I was growing up. You made my resolution: “Marylin will REALLY clean up her room, even under the bed.” I made your resolution: “Mom will see that a clean room isn’t the most important thing.” We laughed and decided it was a pretty good experiment.
At this stage in my adult life, I have three favorite quotes about New Year’s Resolutions:
“I hope that this year to come, you make mistakes…Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes…Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do It. Make your mistakes, next year and forever.” ~Neil Gaiman
“Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one.” ~Brad Paisley
“For last year’s words belong to last year’s language – And next year’s words await another voice.” ~T.S. Eliot
When you and Dad moved out of your house and into your care apartment, I saved boxes of your notebooks, Grandma’s recipes, and files of writing submissions and records. Tucked in a file of newspaper articles and columns you’d kept over the years, there was an envelope filled with faded, fragile newspaper clippings. One was a New Year’s Resolution by Ann Landers. There wasn’t a date or newspaper header, so I didn’t know if it had been written by Ann Landers herself, or by Eppie Lederer or Ruth Crowley, who wrote the column for many years. But it was an excellent New Year’s Resolution, one definitely worth sharing:
“Let this coming year be better than all the others. Vow to do some of the things you’ve always wanted to do but couldn’t find the time. Call up a forgotten friend. Drop an old grudge, and replace it with some pleasant memories. Vow not to make a promise you don’t think you can keep. Walk tall, and smile more. You’ll look 10 years younger. Don’t be afraid to say, ‘I love you.’ Say it again. They are the sweetest words in the world.”
You could have written this advice, Mom. Instead, you lived it, along with many other wonderful actions, and that has made the difference in many other lives. Thank you.
For all of us: 2012 has been a year of joys and sorrows. Individually and collectively we have celebrated life, faced fears, and grieved losses. On the eve of 2013, may we embrace the words of Alfred, Lord Tennyson: “Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering ‘it will be happier’…”
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As always, you’ve written another beautiful and touching post. z
Thank you so much, and Happy New Year 2013 (early) to you! Keep up with the gorgeous colors of your designs!
I think it’s best to be hopeful because the alternative is, frankly, well, lacking hope. Lovely post.
Hopelessness is a dismal prospect. As long as there’s even a “smidgen” of hope, I’m in! Thanks, Julia.
May 2013 be brighter and more positive for all of us. Happy New Year, Marilyn.
Yes, Judy, I heartily agree! Happy New Year to you, too.
Thanks Marylin. Reading your blog is a pleasure, and reminds me of how much I will always love my mom. HNY.
Oh, Deb, I am so glad it does that. That’s truly a compliment. Thank you.
But, I want to know…..did Marylin learn to have a clean bedroom….and did Grandma learn to know that a clean room isn’t all that important?? OHHHH wait……………..I know the answer…..NO, Marylin DID NOT learn to have a cleaner bedroom, and YES, Grandma did learn that having a clean bedroom is not the most important thing!!
You and Grandma are both fabulous role models…clean bedrooms or not!!!
Great blog story Mom….LOVE IT!
You KNOW how the cleaning thing turned out…
But I’m so glad Grandma and I are fabulous role models for you, because I’d love to take even a little credit for how well you’ve turned out and what a good momma you are!
“Another room as yet unkempt…
Step through now and
do not fear
the waking of another year.”
Thank you for another beautiful post, Marylin!
Wishing you the HAPPIEST NEW YEAR EVER!
Oooo, that’s beautiful, K. Who is the author?
Happiest New Year Ever to you, too!
HA, me. Bear Hugs! 🙂
Drive home safe and let’s get this party rollin’!
You know, I had a feeling it was yours. Okay, now that you’ve shared yet another talent, in addition to being in awe of your novel writing and amazing art and jewelry making, I’m also going to expect to read more of this!!!
Thank-you, Marylin, for an utterly lovely and uplifting post. Cheers to all for a blessed New Year!
Thank you, Marti, and a very happy New Year to you, too! After your African Safari adventure, I look forward to all your writing!
What a beautiful mother! You are truly fortunate.
I know I am, Lea. Thank you, and please visit again.
What a lovely assortment of inspiring quotes for the new year, thanks for sharing! I’m definitely marking some of these down as a reminder to myself of what a new year can really mean.
I know. I have to check them again, too, or the time will fly by and I’ll forget.
They will be good for me to have in these moments when I’m doubting or erring without a clear purpose.
Lovely post. Great quotes.
Thanks, Rod, and Happy New Year.
Wonderful inspiration for the new year, Marylin. Thank you.
This time last year, my mother probably would have remembered us trading resolutions or, because her long-term memory was so good, some of the resolutions she made as a girl. So much can happen in a year, be lost or forgotten. Going through this with her makes me more aware, more careful of time and memories. It reminds me of the lovely memories you have of your mother, Nancy, and how beautifully you write about them.
I have a whole list of New Year’s resolutions prepared. I’ve even started to write them down. :p
Wow, but you’re ambitious. Keep us posted on how long that list lasts! ;=)
Hope smiling. I love that. Kind of like when you look at your mother, I bet. Happy New Year, Marylin.
And to you, too, Darla. Yes, it is Hope Smiling.
Marylin, the only resolution I make every year is to stop smoking and on the eve of the next year, guess what ….failed again …..
May the New Year be filled with wonderful joy to you and yours my Lovely xxxxxxx
Ah, the quit-smoking plan. Good luck with that, Tom.
But keep trying, okay? It’s worth the fight.
Have a prosperous and joyous new year, dear Tom, and except for trying to give up smoking, don’t change. You’re wonderful!
Excellent post Marylin ,Happy New Year to you my friend 🙂
And to you, too, friend Jake! Your posts are colorful and inspiring, and you’re a great motivator. Keep up the good work.
Love the quotes about New Year’s resolutions. Hope you have a joy-filled new year with many firsts and perhaps a few missteps along the way! 🙂
Thanks, LuAnn. You know, I’ve been thinking about it, and missteps don’t seem like mistakes any more…just the first steps that weren’t perfect but still led to something new to consider!
I agree. I have found that many of my missteps in life have awarded me the most growth. 🙂
Beautiful post. I love the quotes! Happy New Year 🙂
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Thank you. I’m glad you enjoyed them and want to share them.
I have two of your recipes printed out and waiting. It’s not just the beautiful photography that encourages me; I love the way you walk the readers through recipes and make it seem so possible!
I thank you for this post, Marylin! I would like to have every day be a New Year’s Day — resolutions are so much easier to keep when they’re only for the 15-or so hours in front of us. As I write this, I realize that will be the subject of my blog for today! Thanks for the inspiration.
Excellent! I love your posts, Diana, and I can’t wait to read it. Happy New Year!
I hadn’t heard of those quotes before Marylin but they are so fitting . I think I must make note of one or two of your Mums newspaper clipping resolutions myself .
Happy New Year to you x
PS what a lovely compliment from your daughter Molly too !
My daughter is a rare and wonderful young woman, and I’m so proud of her…and her children, my grandchildren, too, because they are so much like her!
Dear Marilyn, Wonderful. Thank you and Happy New Year, Ellen
I’m glad you enjoyed them, Ellen. Thanks.
I love that quote “I hope that this year to come, you make mistakes…Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes…Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do It. Make your mistakes, next year and forever.” ~Neil Gaiman
That’s got to be the most realistic New Year’s resolution I’ve ever heard. Because that’s what I usually do. And now I’m going to embrace those f**k ups! 😀
Happy New Year Marilyn!
I love Neil Gaiman’s writing, and this quote is one of my favorites. Especially for the first day of a new year, the encouragement to take risks and accept that some of them will lead to mistakes. Now THAT is a good resolution for 2013!
It was so good it inspired me to do a post on it! LOL! It’s not very ethical, but it about sums it up!
I read it, and you got some very strong agreements. I’d say that Neil Gaiman’s advice to take risks and make lots of mistakes struck a lot of cords.
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I’m glad you connected with it!
Marilyn … I just nominated you for the Liebster Award. I strongly suspect you don’t fall into the up-and-commer catagory, but I really enjoy your postings and hope you wlil accept this “sweetest” award. The rules can be found on my blog.
You are so thoughtful, Judy. I’ve already received the Liebster Award, but I appreciate your support.
The beauty of a virtual award is there’s no dust to collect as they rest on the virtual shelves. Count my Liebster Award as a double scoop of love for your posts.
Dusting has never been my strength, so that is a good thing. You’re so sweet, Judy; thank you.
Happy New Year to you Marilyn!! This is such a beautifully written post. Also I enjoyed your favourite quotes very much! Super inspirational! 🙂
Thank you, Sammie. I find them inspiring, too. Please visit again.
I loved every one of the quotes, resolutions, and daring-do spirits! Here’s to a great New Year!
Absolutely, Nancy! And as writers, we lift our glasses for two toasts…that we’ll both keep those writing goal resolutions AND celebrate the successes.
Some wonderful resolutions here worth adopting. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you, Libby. I hope they work for you!
oh i love that gaiman quote…Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes….. isn’t that a relaxing way to look at the new year..we learn so much through our mistakes.. we should def. embrace them..happy new year to you
And to you, too, Claudia. Gaiman’s advice to jump right in and make mistakes is, indeed, a relaxing way to try to things and follow dreams!
Thank you for your visit and comment at my blog. Thank you even more for sharing your thoughts and memories in this post. I smiled and reminisced with the echoes of self I read there. Thank you, and Happy New Year.
You’re very welcome. Please visit again.
“Walk tall, and smile more.” Love it! Thank you for sharing the quote!
You’re very welcome, Amy.
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